It is NOT normal to keep feelings hidden from the person you marry.

Many people say that it is normal to keep one’s feelings hidden from the person you marry. I believe that this is not normal and should not be done. When a person gets married, they should talk about their feelings and keep nothing hidden from the other. They should trust each other and expect each other to not judge or criticize one another.

In order for a marriage to survive and prosper, there should constant communication and expression of feeling between spouses. A person who feels they have to hide their feelings from their spouse, for fear of being not understood and unaccepted, should learn to trust in their spouse and not be afraid to express his feeling to her. It is not normal for a person to hide their feelings from their spouse; the person they married and should trust.

            In my religion, we believe that marriage is sacred and that spouse should love and cherish each other. We also believe a marriage cannot only last till death do them part, but for eternity. Thus we need to learn to trust our spouse and express our feeling to one another. If we don’t learn to trust our spouses and express our feelings to them and not hide anything from them in this life, how then will we trust them in eternity?

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Gatsby's Questions

1. Why is Daisy still with Tom, even though she knows he is having an affair?
2. What experince in Nick's past life has led him to believe that all women are dishonest? 
3. Is Nick's true cardinal virtue, honesty?
4. Why does Nick doubt Gatsby story of his life?
5. Why hasn't Nick broken off the engagment already, instead of toying with that girl's poor heart?

A New Life over again with the Summer

And as I walked on
 I was lonely no longer.
I was a guide,
 A pathfinder,
An original settler.
 He had casually conferred on me
 The freedom of the neighborhood.
And so with the sunshine and
 The great bursts of leaves growing on the trees,
 Just as things grow in fast movies,
I had that familiar conviction
 That life was beginning over again with the summer.
(Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby page 8)

Marriage is not Money $$$

If there is one thing in this world that “Grinds my gears”, it’s “GOLD DIGGERS”. People, who just marry others, solely on how much “mullah” that person makes, are Gold diggers. These “people” are ignorant and apathetic, judging others only by how much income they make and they shall have their reward. I mean come on people we should be better than this and not judge others by their net worth. We should not marry others based solely on their economical status, by virtue of that we overlook their “real” qualities, and that marriage is a sacred ordinance in the eyes of God.

When we choose to only look at how much money a person has in their bank account, we overlook and at times neglect their “real” qualities and characteristics. If one marry simply because money, they may not truly know that person and may come to regret getting married in the first place. For example, let us say a “gold digger” (male and/or female) gets hitched with someone they have barely met; 1 month later  finds out that gold digger’s spouse  is an abusive, “slobish”, an totally crazy spouse and wishes to divorce him/her, but the spouse kills the gold digger.  Although this may be an extreme “what if” situation, it could and sometimes it does happen. But in the end, we should marry someone who has qualities and characteristics that we look for in a spouse.

Marriage is not something to be taken lightly and is a sacred ordinance in the eyes of God, thus we should not just marry anyone based solely on their economical status. Marriage between a women and a man, is not only a contract between themselves, but also a covenant with God. People should not marry other people, simply based on how much money they have in their bank account. If people are to get married, they should value the following three things in a person. First, they should have same religious beliefs as yours, as to not cause contention and arguments, which only lead to a failed marriage. Second, they should have human values that we seek for in a “soul mate”. Finally third, they should have mutual interest, and aspirations, whether it is pertaining to physical, emotional, sociable, religious… etc. Marriage is a sacred ordinance between a man and a women, thus spouses should love, care, respect, and nurture each other. “We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.” (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

 “We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan. (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng). Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations. (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed. (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day, stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.” (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

People should not marry others solely on their economical status, because we may neglect their other better qualities and because marriage was instituted by God and is a sacred ordinance.

Many of my blog concerning my second point was copied from the website LDS.ORG as to not discredit them or accidentally distort their (Prophets) Writings.

Marriage is not Money $$$

If there is one thing in this world that “Grinds my gears”, it’s “GOLD DIGGERS”. People, who just marry others, solely on how much “mullah” that person makes, are Gold diggers. These “people” are ignorant and apathetic, judging others only by how much income they make and they shall have their reward. I mean come on people we should be better than this and not judge others by their net worth. We should not marry others based solely on their economical status, by virtue of that we overlook their “real” qualities, and that marriage is a sacred ordinance in the eyes of God.

When we choose to only look at how much money a person has in their bank account, we overlook and at times neglect their “real” qualities and characteristics. If one marry simply because money, they may not truly know that person and may come to regret getting married in the first place. For example, let us say a “gold digger” (male and/or female) gets hitched with someone they have barely met; 1 month later  finds out that gold digger’s spouse  is an abusive, “slobish”, an totally crazy spouse and wishes to divorce him/her, but the spouse kills the gold digger.  Although this may be an extreme “what if” situation, it could and sometimes it does happen. But in the end, we should marry someone who has qualities and characteristics that we look for in a spouse.

Marriage is not something to be taken lightly and is a sacred ordinance in the eyes of God, thus we should not just marry anyone based solely on their economical status. Marriage between a women and a man, is not only a contract between themselves, but also a covenant with God. People should not marry other people, simply based on how much money they have in their bank account. If people are to get married, they should value the following three things in a person. First, they should have same religious beliefs as yours, as to not cause contention and arguments, which only lead to a failed marriage. Second, they should have human values that we seek for in a “soul mate”. Finally third, they should have mutual interest, and aspirations, whether it is pertaining to physical, emotional, sociable, religious… etc. Marriage is a sacred ordinance between a man and a women, thus spouses should love, care, respect, and nurture each other. “We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.” (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

 “We declare the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan. (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng). Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before God for the discharge of these obligations. (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

The family is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed. (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

We warn that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day, stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.” (http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng).

People should not marry others solely on their economical status, because we may neglect their other better qualities and because marriage was instituted by God and is a sacred ordinance.

 P.SMany of my blog concerning my second point was copied from the website LDS.ORG as to not discredit them or accidentally distort their (Prophets) Writings.

Don't Judge a Book by its Cover (Appearance Blog)

Look at those kids with their buttoned shirts and their huge glasses and the way they walk with a small hunch and especially with their pants pulled all the way up, they must be as Alek would say “nerds”. Or look at those people, wearing all black clothes and have long boisterous hair, with their melancholy face expressions, they must be Emos. Or look at those guys and girls strutting around like they own the place, with their Hollister brand clothes and their puffed up chests and their phony smiles, they must be jocks and preppy kids. All of these assumptions based on first glances and appearances. At times appearances can be quite deceiving and can make us think twice about interacting with that certain person. We will never truly get to know a person just by looking at them, we must actually TALK to them and interact with them. WHAT TALK TO OTHERS OUTSIDE OF OUR “SOCIAL” BUBBLE!? As the saying goes, DON’T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT’S COVER. Another thing is that the way we “dress and groom ourselves sends messages about you to others and influences the way you and others act”  (For the Strength of Youth: Fulfilling Our Duty to God)  

           

We (I included as well) must STOP, giving a damn (it’s in the Bible) about what others think of our dress and appearance and express our selves. I am not saying to break the school dress and appearance standards, but we should wholesomely independently express ourselves. Our generation is too concerned with fitting in with the new trends, which most of the time are immodest, shear, and revealing. “We should not lower our dress and appearance standards. Doing so sends a message that [we] are using our body to get attention and approval and that modesty is important only when convenient” (For the Strength of Youth: Fulfilling Our Duty to God)

In America we are all given the freedom of expression and liberty to voice our opinions which are of substantial use. Every women and man has the agency endowed by their creator to choose whatever they may want, however we are not free to choose the consequences. Every person’s opinions are value in this great country of America and are taken into account.

Many people today date people only because they same economical status and if they are desirable in their eyes. I believe this is only lust and prejudices against other people who personal merits and honorable qualities are neglected because they are not rich enough or beautiful enough in the sight of others. We (I included) must learn not look upon the countenance of others and judge them outwardly, but to look to their contents of their hearts and see their good merits and qualities. However we judge others, by the same way we shall be judged.